Who do you spend time with?Β 

by | Dec 5, 2024 | Pilates Exercises, pilates reformer, Starting & Growing Your Business, Teacher Training, Uncategorized, YMCA Pilates Teacher Training, yoga, yoga teacher training | 0 comments

𝑯𝒂𝒗𝒆 π’šπ’π’– π’ˆπ’π’• π’‚π’π’š π’•π’Šπ’Žπ’†-π’”π’‚π’—π’Šπ’π’ˆ π’‰π’‚π’„π’Œπ’” 𝒕𝒉𝒂𝒕 π’šπ’π’– π’˜π’‚π’π’• 𝒕𝒐 𝒔𝒉𝒂𝒓𝒆??
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Have you ever been out for a coffee with a friend and by the time you’re finished you feel absolutely exhausted and like that friend has sucked the living life out of you, like in a vampire movie! 😩
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It takes you days to recover and hopefully they won’t get in touch again for another few months….
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π‘Šπ‘’π‘™π‘™, π‘€β„Žπ‘œ π‘¦π‘œπ‘’ β„Žπ‘Žπ‘›π‘” π‘Žπ‘Ÿπ‘œπ‘’π‘›π‘‘ π‘€π‘–π‘‘β„Ž π‘šπ‘Žπ‘‘π‘‘π‘’π‘Ÿπ‘  π‘Žπ‘›π‘‘ 𝑀𝑖𝑙𝑙 β„Žπ‘Žπ‘£π‘’ π‘Ž β„Žπ‘’π‘”π‘’ π‘–π‘šπ‘π‘Žπ‘π‘‘ π‘œπ‘› π‘¦π‘œπ‘’π‘Ÿ 𝑏𝑒𝑠𝑖𝑛𝑒𝑠𝑠 π‘Žπ‘›π‘‘ π‘¦π‘œπ‘’π‘Ÿ π‘–π‘›π‘π‘œπ‘šπ‘’.
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Over the coming months start to take note of who leaves you feeling exhausted, tired, and irritated😧 ​ and who leaves you feel energized, motivated, and like you can conquer the world! 🌍
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Quite a bit of research has been done about how the people you hang around with affect your earnings and it’s really bizarre, but you are the average of the 5 people you hang around with the most!!!!
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So if you spend all your time with people that aren’t interested in business, helping people, or making a GREAT LIFE, they will pull you back down.
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β€œπ΅π‘’π‘‘ π‘€β„Žπ‘Žπ‘‘ π΄π‘š 𝐼 𝑗𝑒𝑠𝑑 π‘ π‘’π‘π‘π‘œπ‘ π‘’π‘‘ π‘‘π‘œ π‘‘π‘œ, 𝑗𝑒𝑠𝑑 π‘›π‘’π‘£π‘’π‘Ÿ π‘ π‘π‘’π‘Žπ‘˜ π‘‘π‘œ π‘‘β„Žπ‘’π‘š π‘Žπ‘”π‘Žπ‘–π‘›??? β€œ
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If only it was that simple!
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It’s very hard to just cut all ties with people especially if you’ve been friends for many many years and you feel obliged to stay friends.
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One thing that I do is π‘™π‘–π‘šπ‘–π‘‘ π‘šπ‘¦ π‘π‘œπ‘›π‘‘π‘Žπ‘π‘‘.
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So instead of seeing some friends as I used to now, I’ll only see them 2 or 3 times a year.
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It saves me being around their negativity towards my business (yes some friends will take the piss out of your β€œbusiness” because it’s not a β€œreal” job).
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I have friends that I party with – and don’t discuss any business with these friends. Mind you I’m even getting too old for partying!
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I may sound boring but I get more excited about what I’ve got planned for my future than I do about going on a piss-up so my goals and my future comes first.
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When I achieve my goals and I’m sat on a porch watching the sunset across the seas in Cyprus, sipping cocktails then I’ll party!
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I have got friends who are in the same business as we are and I love spending time with them. We love talking about business and what’s working and what’s not working.
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We love sharing our goals and dreams with each other and supporting each other! We also support each other when things aren’t going great, as sometimes they will, and sometimes we’re just an ear to listen when you need a rant!
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𝐼 π‘Žπ‘™π‘ π‘œ 𝑖𝑛𝑣𝑒𝑠𝑑 𝑖𝑛 β„Žπ‘–π‘”β„Ž-𝑒𝑛𝑑 π‘π‘œπ‘Žπ‘β„Žπ‘–π‘›π‘” π‘‘π‘œ 𝑏𝑒 π‘Žπ‘Ÿπ‘œπ‘’π‘›π‘‘ π‘€π‘œπ‘šπ‘’π‘› π‘‘β„Žπ‘Žπ‘‘ π‘Žπ‘Ÿπ‘’ π‘Ž 𝑓𝑒𝑀 (π‘œπ‘Ÿ π‘™π‘œπ‘‘π‘ ) 𝑠𝑑𝑒𝑝𝑠 π‘Žβ„Žπ‘’π‘Žπ‘‘ π‘œπ‘“ π‘šπ‘’ 𝑖𝑛 𝑏𝑒𝑠𝑖𝑛𝑒𝑠𝑠 π‘ π‘œ π‘‘β„Žπ‘Žπ‘‘ 𝐼 π‘π‘Žπ‘› π‘ π‘’π‘Ÿπ‘Ÿπ‘œπ‘’π‘›π‘‘ π‘šπ‘¦π‘ π‘’π‘™π‘“ π‘€π‘–π‘‘β„Ž π‘™π‘–π‘˜π‘’-π‘šπ‘–π‘›π‘‘π‘’π‘‘ π‘π‘’π‘œπ‘π‘™π‘’ π‘€β„Žπ‘œ 𝐼 π‘π‘Žπ‘› π‘™π‘’π‘Žπ‘Ÿπ‘› π‘“π‘Ÿπ‘œπ‘š π‘Žπ‘›π‘‘ π‘™π‘œπ‘œπ‘˜ 𝑒𝑝 π‘‘π‘œ.
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What about family?
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OOH this is such a hard one….
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My mother gets under my skin quite easily when it comes to business. Always making comments like β€œyou always have so much going on”. β€œmind you don’t overdo it”. β€œOh, what do you want to do that for” and the list goes on.
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But guess what. She doesn’t’ really understand. She has never run a business of her own and she means well.
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It’s taken me many years, but now I know what to tell her, what not to tell her, and also to take what she says lightly.
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The problem with family members is that their words cut deep and will affect you the most.
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Close friends who have no idea about business will make remarks about ideas you have β€œoh I don’t think that will work because xyz”.
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​𝐴𝑛𝑑 π‘¦π‘œπ‘’ 𝑠𝑖𝑑 π‘ π‘žπ‘’π‘–π‘Ÿπ‘šπ‘–π‘›π‘” 𝑖𝑛 π‘¦π‘œπ‘’π‘Ÿ π‘ π‘’π‘Žπ‘‘ π‘Žπ‘›π‘‘ 𝑓𝑒𝑒𝑙𝑖𝑛𝑔 π‘Žπ‘€π‘“π‘’π‘™ π‘π‘’π‘π‘Žπ‘’π‘ π‘’ π‘ π‘œπ‘šπ‘’π‘œπ‘›π‘’ β„Žπ‘Žπ‘  π‘™π‘–π‘‘π‘’π‘Ÿπ‘Žπ‘™π‘™π‘¦ 𝑗𝑒𝑠𝑑 π‘ β„Žπ‘Žπ‘‘ π‘Žπ‘™π‘™ π‘œπ‘£π‘’π‘Ÿ π‘¦π‘œπ‘’π‘Ÿ π‘‘π‘Ÿπ‘’π‘Žπ‘š!
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π‘ˆπ‘πΏπΈπ‘†π‘† π‘‘β„Žπ‘’ π‘π‘’π‘Ÿπ‘ π‘œπ‘› π‘¦π‘œπ‘’β€™π‘Ÿπ‘’ π‘‘π‘Žπ‘˜π‘–π‘›π‘” π‘Žπ‘‘π‘£π‘–π‘π‘’ π‘“π‘Ÿπ‘œπ‘š β„Žπ‘Žπ‘  π‘Žπ‘π‘‘π‘’π‘Žπ‘™π‘™π‘¦ π‘Ÿπ‘’π‘› π‘Ž 𝑠𝑒𝑐𝑐𝑒𝑠𝑠𝑓𝑒𝑙 𝑏𝑒𝑠𝑖𝑛𝑒𝑠𝑠 π‘‘π‘œ π‘›π‘œπ‘‘ π‘‘π‘Žπ‘˜π‘’ π‘Žπ‘‘π‘£π‘–π‘π‘’ π‘Žπ‘π‘œπ‘’π‘‘ 𝑏𝑒𝑠𝑖𝑛𝑒𝑠𝑠 π‘“π‘Ÿπ‘œπ‘š π‘π‘’π‘œπ‘π‘™π‘’ π‘‘β„Žπ‘Žπ‘‘ β„Žπ‘Žπ‘£π‘’ 𝑏𝑒𝑒𝑛 π‘’π‘šπ‘π‘™π‘œπ‘¦π‘’π‘‘ π‘Žπ‘™π‘™ π‘œπ‘“ π‘‘β„Žπ‘’π‘–π‘Ÿ 𝑙𝑖𝑓𝑒.

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THEIR BRAINS ARE NOT WIRED LIKE OURS. 🀯
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If I told people what my plans were all those years ago, I would not be where I am today.
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𝐼 π‘€π‘œπ‘’π‘™π‘‘ π‘›π‘œπ‘‘ β„Žπ‘Žπ‘£π‘’ 𝑠𝑒𝑐𝑐𝑒𝑠𝑠𝑓𝑒𝑙 𝑏𝑒𝑠𝑖𝑛𝑒𝑠𝑠𝑒𝑠 π‘Žπ‘›π‘‘ π‘€π‘œπ‘Ÿπ‘˜π‘–π‘›π‘” π‘‘β„Žπ‘’ β„Žπ‘œπ‘’π‘Ÿπ‘  π‘‘β„Žπ‘Žπ‘‘ 𝐼 π‘€π‘Žπ‘›π‘‘ π‘Žπ‘›π‘‘ β„Žπ‘Žπ‘£π‘–π‘›π‘” π‘Ž π‘π‘Ÿπ‘’π‘‘π‘‘π‘¦ π‘”π‘Ÿπ‘’π‘Žπ‘‘ 𝑙𝑖𝑓𝑒.
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I’d probably still be killing myself in the police and being a slave to someone else.
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Here’s an exercise for you:
1️⃣Who do you feel like you need to reduce your time with?
2️⃣Who do you want to spend more time with?
3️⃣What actions are you going to take to make both happen?
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π‘€π‘Žπ‘˜π‘’ π‘Ž π‘π‘œπ‘šπ‘šπ‘–π‘‘π‘šπ‘’π‘›π‘‘ π‘Žπ‘›π‘‘ π‘‘π‘œ π‘€β„Žπ‘Žπ‘‘ π‘¦π‘œπ‘’ π‘ π‘Žπ‘¦ π‘¦π‘œπ‘’ π‘Žπ‘Ÿπ‘’ π‘”π‘œπ‘–π‘›π‘” π‘‘π‘œ π‘‘π‘œ, π‘Žπ‘  π‘‘β„Žπ‘’π‘ π‘’ π‘β„Žπ‘Žπ‘›π‘”π‘’π‘ , π‘Žπ‘  π‘ π‘šπ‘Žπ‘™π‘™ π‘Žπ‘  π‘‘β„Žπ‘’π‘¦ π‘ π‘’π‘’π‘š 𝑀𝑖𝑙𝑙 π‘šπ‘Žπ‘˜π‘’ π‘Ž β„Žπ‘’π‘”π‘’ π‘‘π‘–π‘“π‘“π‘’π‘Ÿπ‘’π‘›π‘π‘’ π‘‘π‘œ π‘¦π‘œπ‘’π‘Ÿ π‘šπ‘–π‘›π‘‘π‘ π‘’π‘‘, π‘¦π‘œπ‘’π‘Ÿ π‘šπ‘œπ‘‘π‘–π‘£π‘Žπ‘‘π‘–π‘œπ‘› π‘Žπ‘›π‘‘ π‘¦π‘œπ‘’π‘Ÿ 𝑠𝑒𝑙𝑓-𝑏𝑒𝑙𝑖𝑒𝑓.𝑓𝑒𝑙 𝑏𝑒𝑠𝑖𝑛𝑒𝑠𝑠𝑒𝑠 π‘Žπ‘›π‘‘ π‘€π‘œπ‘Ÿπ‘˜π‘–π‘›π‘” π‘‘β„Žπ‘’ β„Žπ‘œπ‘’π‘Ÿπ‘  π‘‘β„Žπ‘Žπ‘‘ 𝐼 π‘€π‘Žπ‘›π‘‘ π‘Žπ‘›π‘‘ β„Žπ‘Žπ‘£π‘–π‘›π‘” π‘Ž π‘π‘Ÿπ‘’π‘‘π‘‘π‘¦ π‘”π‘Ÿπ‘’π‘Žπ‘‘ 𝑙𝑖𝑓𝑒.
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Surround yourself with business owners, masterminds and people that will lift you up when you need help and cheer for you when you have a win!
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PS These were my fellow coaches when I used to coach for a very successful mentoring company. I was great to be a part of such an awesome team!

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